PUCKER UP

Posted on February 4, 2010
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Kissing is an exercise that is much too often wasted on the young, at least for the pre- boomer generation.  If you kept track of all the romantic kissing that you did in high school and college, and maybe when you were young and single, would it come close to adding up to the amount of romantic kissing that you have done in the past 40 years, ESPECIALLY if you’re married?  (Remember “suck face”, who started that, yuck!)  Kissing is an art: it combines passion, patience, pleasure, tenderness, restraint, surrender and control and wraps it into a warm and somewhat innocent way of exposing yourself to another human being.  Having just met a man that is an amazing kisser, (and I am not divulging his identity or his location, because I don’t want to have to deal with the line of women that would instantly appear outside his door), I am truly taken aback at the romance extended by a tender kiss.  

This simple statement catapults us into a myriad of related topics: soft lips, vulnerability, those that have kissing issues or deficits.  You’ve never heard of AKD, “adult kissing disorder”?  This is a syndrome usually applicable to smokers, people with hard lips or a total void of romance, and the patience of a nat. 

With cupid, (or Hallmark), encouraging us to take a look at our romantic commitments this month, I would encourage you to sit down beside someone that you love and kiss them in a way that shows your true devotion, admiration and attraction to them, especially if it is someone that you have been with for a very long time.  Having shocked the crap out of them, they will probably wonder what you are up to—tell them something just came over you.  (Actually, you can probably come up with something much better than that. Use this as an opportunity to stroke an ego and earn mega points.)

Our dear friends, who have been married for 45 years were at dinner one night and exchanged a kiss, (actually 2, he kissed her—she kissed back), that prompted a passerby to comment to them kiddingly, “get a room”.  When they shared not only the length of their marriage but that they had also been dating since high school, the newly acquired admirer wanted to pull up a chair and join them so she could get a little relationship advice. 

During painful assessments of my somewhat recent divorce, I regret not having done more of these simple, yet meaningful gestures.  A periodic ass kicking about not taking what you have for granted, and suggestions on how to maneuver through that dilemma, can be a huge and meaningful attitude adjuster—you’re welcome.

Pucker those lips and let the gentleness of a kiss speak what mere words would seem so inadequate to express.

Note: should you need a tutorial for this undertaking try “The Art Of Kissing”, by William Cane or “The Kissing Book: Everything You Need To Know”, by Tomima Edmark.

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