NOTE from AGINGBUTDANGEROUS
(we would say “warning” but we are thinking that that would be overkill.)

We understand that some of you are not comfortable with the public discussion of sex or any of its wonderful accoutrements.   AgingButDangerous wants to respect ALL of our many wonderful and diverse followers.  However, there are also MANY of you that want to become more knowledgeable about yourselves sexually, to stretch those puritanical boundaries that have plagued most of us our entire lives.  Pure and simple, the number one topic for most of our sister websites and for ours is sex.  There in lies our dilemma. We at AgingButDangerous strive to create a SAFE place for ALL to learn about ourselves as women and that includes sex.  We are proud of that. We encourage you to read the following post with an open mind and to stretch yourselves beyond what you already know.  If you have issues with discussing sex openly then DO NOT READ THIS, we respect your choice.  But please try to always LEARN AND GROW (maybe be a little bit dangerous)—that is what keeps life vital and you exciting.

Something Soft, Slick, or Sweet
Written by Clare Jacky

Sensory touch can be an excellent way to slow things down and warm things up this Valentines Day. For some, this kind of touch can be a good alternative to intercourse, allowing you to connect with your partner’s body without ever involving their genitals. Whether the end goal is penetration, oral, manual stimulation, or the touch itself, arousing the whole body slowly and sensually can demonstrate care, desire, and a bit of devotion.

Sensory touch can come in the form of a long, luxurious massage, a tickle with a feather, or by wielding a chocolate covered paintbrush. Connect with your intention when choosing a kind of touch. If you want to relax your partner, a full body massage is perhaps the best choice. Pick out your partner’s favorite oil or lotion, turn up the heat a bit, and get naked. This can be a perfect form of touch for an achy or healing body. On the other hand, if you’re looking to tease and tantalize, something tasty can be a real treat. You can use any kind of dessert topping that really does it for you or check out some of The Smitten Kitten’s delicious body paints.

A book or video on massage can really get creativity flowing. Check out Erotica Massage for Lovers. http://www.smittenkittenonline.com/books/massage/erotic-massage-for-lovers.html

Also, Kama Sutra makes some small kits, which can be perfect for a weekend away or night in with your partner. http://www.smittenkittenonline.com/sex-accessories/oils-and-massage/the-weekender-kit-strawberry.html

Soft silk can feel amazing on the skin and a simple sleep mask can really heighten sensation, adding a bit of kink to your soft touch session. Keep in mind that this is a form of play, so get creative and let the connection between you and your partner flow.