Several years ago we did a survey asking women that we knew, what we thought was a serious question, “when was the last time you felt hot?’’.  (Hot as in sexy, not flashes.)  Replies ranged between not recently, to never.   NEVER?  We were amazed.

Then we read an article about a writer who felt she didn’t have, ‘sexy making instincts’, she didn’t say it exactly that way, we are taking the liberties of summarizing.  A photo of her revealed much of the problem.  She looked like someone had knitted her, she was over the top home spun.   One of her colleagues suggested that she should put some effort into appearing like she hadn’t just stepped off a package of cookies,(like something the Keebler elves might have conjured up).  The next photo was amazing; hair down, skirt appropriately short (just at the knee) and fitted, heeled shoes—she was definitely looking “hot”, and by her own admittance felt similarly.  It was a choice she had historically made, to dummy down her full potential because she was more comfortable that way.

Here is our point.  It is SOOO easy to get into the rut of not putting our full effort into looking great, and feeling great, which often go hand in hand.  With warm weather we have many opportunities to take our appearance, hence our attitude, up a notch.  Wear a nice skirt, (try Target) to replace those uniformish pants.  Wear a nice flattering shirt that has a little punch; maybe fitted, maybe with the opportunity to show a little cleavage.  Shoes are designed to give you both comfort and style these days.  Go for a slightly higher heel or do a color that rocks your ensemble.  Current jewelry trends make it easy to get mileage from your accessories, just glom on everything in your jewelry box that matches, or not.  A great scarf, a wonderful bag, all great weapons of mass construction.

Why are makeover shows so popular?  Because it is as exciting to see others bloom as it is to see ourselves bloom.  We hear the same words spoken over and over by those recycled souls; “I FEEL so good about myself”.  That’s what it is all about!

In Elle magazine recently we read these wonderful words: “Some recent shifts in fashion transcend age.  It’s not our job to tell a 64-year-old woman who looks fabulous in a pair of platforms that she can’t wear them because she’s too old.  If you look great, you should be able to celebrate and wear the things you love.”

Go for it!   When someone said “you reap what you sow”, do you think they really meant “sew”?  We should have know that  they were really talking about  fashion.