When Roy Orbison sang, “love hurts, love scars, love wounds, love mars”, back in the seventies (or was that the sixties?), we should have been warned. With hoards of mature single females wondering around the world these days, these lyrics have to play out more often than we might think. HOW DO WE PROTECT OUR HEARTS?
Well here goes MY rant—I AM REALLY PISSED!! I just got dumped by a man that I have been dating and I am livid. What happened to trust? Opening up ones feelings in a safe place shouldn’t be that problematic OR scary. How do we really know someone until it is too late?
Married and single women are facing the traumas of relationship disappointment OR even more painful, a broken heart. The divorce rate is out of control, in general, and rising steadily in those of us over 55. When honesty does not exist, then a relationship is doomed. Seeing your former girlfriend on a regular basis while your current girl friend trusts that she is in a committed relationship just doesn’t cut it!!
As Viagra takes the place of Geritol both genders see the opportunity to re-live their youth. It all looked so nice in the fantasies; wonderful mature men and women that longed for an honest, intellectual and spiritual relationship. AND the icing on the cake would be great sex! What was I thinking? Maybe men are too busy worrying about an “erection lasting more than four hours” to concentrate on the basics of a relationship built on trust and consideration. Is THAT so difficult?
Many wonderful, smart, attractive, talented women struggle with the task of finding male companionship. “It isn’t easy”, says a friend of ours, “where did all the great guys go?” Good question! As much as women want companionship, statistically they do not want to re-marry. ( Maybe we actually are getting smarter.)
So when I found out that I had been betrayed by someone that I deeply cared for I immediately came home, got his VERY nice birthday present out of the closet, sang Happy Birthday to myself, and opened his gift. It looks terrific on my coffee table!
Should my next step be Match.com, or one of the equivalents? Please share your dating experiences with us, especially the encounters via the “date for profit” enterprises that permeate the singles chatter. And MY new theme song, “HIT THE ROAD JACK!”
WHAT ABOUT MOM?
SPIRITED ADVICE II
THE GIRL WITH THE DRAGON POO POO
After I divorced I was craving male companionship and joined an on-line site. I was floored at what some men wanted, and also how the lied on their profiles. Some were honest, they expected to take a women out for dinner and to have sex and others wanted unrealistic women, such has wears size 10 and looks good in jeans and a gown. I had to laugh at many of their photos, they were considered stocky when actually they were overweight but wanted a thin women. However, on the plus side, online dating got me out of the house and I had some interesting and fun dates and I did meet someone that I have been dating for 3 years. I encourage you to try it, it is an eye opening experience and it helps you to decide what you do and don’t want in a mate. Plus it will give you loads of material for your blog!