Should you be crazy enough to try to install your own toilet, or clean your own gutters, or engage in any number of off the wall and “dangerous” challenges that we would NEVER even consider attempting, (although we admire your courage), log on to www.managemyhome.com .  Sears has put together a comprehensive website that rocks.  They will also find lost appliance manuals for you—just give them the brand and serial number and they are on it.  Inspector Clouseau gone domestic—perfect.

Just to recap we had a delightful time on the Lori & Julia show on 107.1 St. Paul / Minneapolis.  For those of you who missed the show we have posted here for you to listen to.

Dont forget to chime in using the comment box below. We love to hear what you have to say.

“You are the source, You have the power, Make your dreams come true.”

In this portion of our life – life on earth – we must travel in our bodies. The quality of our life and the ease with which we live our lives’ is dependent on the strength and health of our body.

We need to be athletes in life – to constantly feed ourselves and train ourselves to be as strong as we can be. No one can give us a pill or perform an operation that will magically make us fit and strong –
we must choose to care for ourselves and train hard, to reverse the aging process, or to rehab injuries and hold our own against auto immune diseases such as arthritis, fibromyalgia, or lupus.

After reading Charles McGrath’s article in the June 17, New York Times we squealed– Aging But Dangerous certainly sums her up.  We  didn’t want our followers to miss this insightful article and we couldn’t have said it better.

At 85, a Brahmin in Blue Jeans Writes of Sex, Masks and Veggies
By CHARLES McGRATH
Published: June 17, 2009

Gloria Vanderbilt’s new novel, “Obsession: An Erotic Tale,” which comes out next week, may be the steamiest book ever written by an octogenarian. And it’s one of very few volumes to arrive on the sex-book shelf accompanied by a blurb from Joyce Carol Oates, who calls it, “a remarkable tapestry of human passion — an interior world of highly charged erotic mysteries that teasingly suggest, but ever elude, decoding.”

In other words, it’s not always clear what’s going on.

Several years ago we did a survey asking women that we knew, what we thought was a serious question, “when was the last time you felt hot?’’.  (Hot as in sexy, not flashes.)  Replies ranged between not recently, to never.   NEVER?  We were amazed.

Then we read an article about a writer who felt she didn’t have, ’sexy making instincts’, she didn’t say it exactly that way, we are taking the liberties of summarizing.  A photo of her revealed much of the problem.  She looked like someone had knitted her, she was over the top home spun.   One of her colleagues suggested that she should put some effort into appearing like she hadn’t just stepped off a package of cookies,(like something the Keebler elves might have conjured up).  The next photo was amazing; hair down, skirt appropriately short (just at the knee) and fitted, heeled shoes—she was definitely looking “hot”, and by her own admittance felt similarly.  It was a choice she had historically made, to dummy down her full potential because she was more comfortable that way.

MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL, WHO IS THE MOST DANGEROUS OF ALL?

We would like to hear from you.  What is the most DANGEROUS situation you have ever put yourself in… or have been put in.  Remember, it does not have to be a position where you were physically in danger.  We are looking for the most entertaining story from you and someone will get their very own Aging But Dangerous T-Shirt!  Thats right, our Aging But Dangerous T-Shirts are now for sale, so get yours here!

Comment on this post with your story and we will choose the best one!  Good Luck!

Although the memories that surround our fathers may not all be stellar, we are greatful for the role they played in our very existance. 

“He opened the jar of pickles when no one else could.  He was the only one in the house who wasn’t afraid to go into the basement by himself.  He cut himself shaving, but no one kissed it or got excited about it.  It was understood when it rained, he got the car and brought it around to the door.  When anyone was sick, he went out to get the prescription filled.  He took lots of pictures…but he was never in them.”
Erma Bombeck (1987)

Let’s think about money today. As a society we have been obsessed with money. Granted it is nice to have, and every woman should have as much as she wants, but it is not, the be all end all, of life. It only provides certain things – it can’t buy good taste – it can’t buy love – it can’t even protect you from boring people.

What I have discovered is that if we focus our attention on being all that we can be, soon we will have whatever we want. The most important thing in our lives is how we feel about ourselves. Are you the person you want to be?

It is now time to create an ideal self image. See yourself as what you would consider to be an ideal woman. How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel peaceful and joyful? Are you happy? If not, why not? Are you making a contribution? What is special and unique about you? Are your relationships mutually loving and harmonious? Are you healthy – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually? How do you look? How do your friends feel about you?

The answer to these questions is within you and they probably cannot be bought, but you can attract them into your life. There are many things that can be helpful in creating the live we want for ourselves and we have discussed two of them which are getting clear about what you want and visualizing it on a daily basis. You clearly do have the innate potential to create whatever you chose for yourself.

Bobbie Stevens, Ph.D.

Author: Unlimited Futures: How to Understand the Life You Have and Create the Life You Want

Helping other people is such a great gesture, but there are SO many people to help, where does one start?  Oh, and those of you that are grumbling about how now is the time we need to help ourselves—we buy that too.   Aging But Dangerous, has found a little jewel of an event outside Minneapolis, (Quilts in Bloom), where you can do both—we will come back to that event later.

This whole concept of an intimate little fundraising event got me really jazzed.  Over the past couple of decades fundraisers have turned into cattle drives for well dressed people.  While at first, the mega event, fundraising extravaganza had some appeal, it got old fast.  Masses of people, stepping on each others feet, trying to fight their way to a silent auction table felt barbaric.   Then you find out that your husband has had one too many glasses of the complimentary bad wine and just as the promoters had hoped, he is now “lubricated” enough to desperately want to win the bid on that new puppy that you begged him to stay away from.  My husband once bid on helicopter golf for him and his buddies.  If you want to meet your neighbors FAST have a helicopter land in your yard.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.
– Eleanor Roosevelt

Let’s think about how we look today.  Remember we no longer need to follow the lead of the latest fashion guru.  It is very sad to see older women trying to be in style by following the latest fashion of letting it all hang out.  We do not need to follow anymore; we can now become fashion trend setters ourselves.  We can all look great.  Older women who know who they are and like themselves are very attractive.

It is time to remember a song that was popular some years ago entitled “Accentuate the Positive – Eliminate the Negative- hold on to the affirmative and don’t mess with Mr.

We, at Aging But Dangerous, think libraries are one of our countries most amazing assets.  Where else can you go for so many diverse, yet wonderful services?  Whether you want to hang out there with your grand kids, (what a wonderful gift for them), or engage help from a professional librarian; that will have answers for you,  to questions, that you didn’t even have questions for.  Or, whether you want to become a  volunteer supporting  all the joy that these institutions bring to us–GO FOR IT!!  Your library brings you knowledge and happiness in a tidy little package.  Don’t  forget to partake, ask questions and say THANK YOU!

Did you know that we re-create ourselves for each phase of our lives?  We were children, and then we became adults.  Many times we did not consciously create a new image of ourselves, but we became different people in each phase of our lives.  Now that we are older and know that our thoughts can make a huge difference in our life’s experiences, let’s create a new image of ourselves.  Think about who you want to be in every roll of your life.  If you are a grandmother, what kind of grandmother do you want to be?  Do you want to be loving, kind and supportive for your grandchildren?  How do you want them to think of you?  Of course, you know that your life is much more than just being a grandmother.  It is a roll that you could play for the rest of your life, but it will change often and you need to be prepared for that.

CAMP FOR GROWN-UPS:  MOMS and GRANDMAS APPLY  NOW.

by Robyn Hall

“School’s out for summer,” and I’ve got the “summertime blues.” (If you understand these musical references, then you are old enough to read this article!). It’s not because my kids are going to be home driving me crazy with their relentless cries of “I’m bored.” In fact, I love the unscheduled un-carpooled days of lazy non-expectation that summer brings. I love to wait and see fun what we can get up to as a family, be it setting up a lemonade stand or having a water balloon fight, or making ooey gooey smores and catching fireflies at night.

What’s got me all shook up is the mail.

“Do Something Big.”

“A Time for Fun, Friendships, Adventures, and Growth.”

“Take Your Game to the Next Level.”

“Changing the World One Person at a Time.”

And finally .

A wise teacher once told us that, “when the student is ready the teacher will appear.”  We, at Aging But Dangerous, hope that you are ready to embrace the joy of aging from the many teachers that we will bring you.  When Michael Jordon said it is all about attitude, we listened—we hope you did too.  Going down this path together will be a blast.  We will share, support, celebrate, honor, cheer, encourage and periodically boogie—but always together.  Thank You for being part of who we are—it will only get better.